Be more decisive - no more “I don’t know” answers.
Communicate better - particularly in bed.
Take more initiative.
Spend more time and effort on your wife.
Take some alone time to discover what you want.
Study how to improve your relationship and your sex life.
Every time you give me feedback, I know there is truth and sincerity, yet it also hurts.
I feel lacking, not good enough at loving, at living, at listening, at expressing - at being. Being a partner, being a friend, being a person, being me.
It’s as if nothing I did before is right, and if only I could become this perfect man that there is even a remote chance of you being happy.
I realize this is untrue and that I am overreacting. But it is as if my slow growth as an emotional being, who is learning to identify and express their emotions, is counter to what you ask of me - to be a manly, determined and undoubting man.
Something I have never been. Something I am not sure I really want to be.
More decisive? Yes, I’d like to be so.
Assertive? Yes, please.
Manly? The very word brings to mind images of dominating muscular figures with little regard for other people, let alone women. No, that is not who I want to be.
What happened to “you’re a wuss and I like it”?
I am struggling with this, and I cannot blame you for not seeing much progress. I am still working out which parts of me I actually want to improve, I guess, and it’s time for me to take a decisive step.
No more “I don’t know”. Even, no, particularly when I try to be careful and tactful because you may not like my answer.
Clarity beats indecisiveness.
